In the Weddingbee.com bridal website forums, one Fairfield County resident admits to keeping “the hive up all day on a tabbed window” — and that she completed reception menu cards, labels for favor boxes and more while in the office. Others admit to similar actions.
On TheKnot.com, there’s even an article on “How to Plan Your Wedding at Work (Without Getting Fired).”
With that wedding planning checklist dancing in their heads, most brides face at least the temptation of working on the wedding when everyone else is “working for the weekend.”
“Planning a wedding is literally a full-time job and we often say it takes about 250 hours to pull it off,” said Heidi Hanson, owner and founder of Easton- and Granby-based Always and Forever LLC, who has been planning events since 1997 and weddings since 2003. “While some bosses don’t mind if you talk about your wedding, it really isn’t a great idea to be searching the web for your dream venue, researching the latest trends, choosing your color scheme, or looking for a DJ, florist or photographer.”
Depending on the job and company Internet policies, Hanson does believe that, “if personal email use is allowed, it certainly would be OK to check a few emails or send a few emails to potential vendors” during the day. As would stepping away from your desk at lunch for a wedding vendor call. How about sending an email from your work account? That’s something “we would definitely not recommend,” Hanson said.
Kelly Latham, a Shelton resident and Milford middle school teacher who got engaged this August, is too busy with students all day to be chatting with wedding vendors about her upcoming May 2013 wedding. But, as a teacher, her time outside of school is limited. The wedding is up in Terryville and, hence, her vendors are far from home. “We’re only allowed four personal days a year,” she added. With that in mind, she knows her school breaks — particularly the April one three weeks prior to the wedding — will be packed with wedding to-do’s.
Latham also took advantage of post-engagement, pre-school-year time. In those two weeks, she found her gown and booked a site.
Still, many lunchtime conversations with co-workers have been about wedding planning — especially since two colleagues just got married themselves and another just got engaged. She has also used lunchtime to bring in sample invitations for her colleagues’ thoughts.
She has some ideas for getting her students involved, too. “They’re looking for afterschool club advisors. I was joking with someone about an event-planning club,” she said. But perhaps, after doing a unit on calligraphy, she will ask some of the more talented kids to stay after school one day for pizza and envelope addressing.
Her sixth graders may even help during class.
“I had seen an aisle runner made out of tissue paper,” she said. It would involve them cutting out 500 to 600 circles and gluing them together darkest to lightest. “This would fit into the sixth grade curriculum. We work with shapes and color, and I could toss this in there as a quick activity,” she said. Just to cover her bases, Latham planned to share the idea with parents at open house and get the principal’s blessing.
Finding creative ways to combine work and wedding planning isn’t something most brides have the flexibility to do. That makes handling wedding tasks during the nine-to-five risky business.
Say you’re on a wedding website and suddenly “The Wedding March” blares from the speakers. Or you get caught examining bridesmaid dress color swatches just before a big meeting. The best way to deal with such a sticky scenario, Hanson said, is to simply state, “It will never happen again.”
Keep your “bride brain” from showing outwardly when it’s time for business, and you’ll earn the respect of colleagues and boss alike. And that wedding checklist? It’ll still get done.